Sitting on my couch, I watch TV alone tonight. I wonder why God wants me to be single. After all, the best things come in pairs like socks, shoes, earrings, and earplugs. Do you think about a couple who adores each other at church? When I pray for my mate, I need someone who can survive the storms in life and focus on God.
I have waited five years? Fifteen years? Twenty? Though this season seems so long, I thank God every day that he provides everything.
I gave my life to the Lord. God had a specific plan for my life even though I did not understand it yet. Looking at my life, someone didn’t know I had problems.Like most African-Americans, I lacked a strong role model in the home.
I surrendered my ambitions, and God became my father. In Psalm 34:4 the bible says “I sought the Lord, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.” I find comfort reading the word.
Fast forward two years, and I met Aunt Love, a prayer warrior at a different church. Aunt Love was a blessing for seven years. My family did not have a relationship with God, but I gained a spiritual family eating dinner at her house often. She encouraged me to follow God’s plan for my life while waiting. She prayed for my family. At the same time I worked in Children’s Ministry and learned more about the word. I encouraged children every week. The job was difficult but a reward.
One Sunday, I taught a lesson about Ruth and Naomi. Looking at Ruth and Naomi, we relate to the strong mother and daughter relationship. Ruth admired Naomi’s faith despite struggling with her husband’s death and finances. Ruth followed Naomi. “Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried” (Ruth1:17 AMP).
We all look for answers concerning our personal problems like relationships, finances. I wanted to quit, but a women who puts her hand to the plow must never look back.
Aunt Love said, “I will beat you if you give up.” Those words are still true today, and I never gave up.
What areas can I focus on before I meet my husband?
As a single finances affects your life drastically? Millions of Americans struggle with bills, prescriptions, and live paycheck to paycheck.
In my late twenties, I didn’t pay my bills on time, because I lacked knowledge of financial literacy and did not control my spending habits. Then, I bought books about finances and attended seminars at work. After that experience, my faith exploded. With diligence, the debt decreased and my credit score improved. God blessed. I pray for my future mate to trust God with his finances too.
Since many marriages go through stress more and more couples should have a specific financial plan before they walk down the aisle. Do you trust God with all your finances? Do you tithe? Most couples are planning the wedding, but they forget to discuss the most important topic, finances. When you are in a relationship, you don’t assume the other person’s attitude toward savings.
We don’t know what storms are around the corner. An unexpected expense such as roof repair can drain savings accounts.
Most couples should ask which person will handle the finances. When you meet Mr. Right, can God trust to manage the household?
When couples understands one other’s financial goals, they avoid arguments and confusion. Couples come up with a common goal like saving $200 a month or more. And apply money for household expenses and entertainment.
When you consider marriage, ask your significant other about specific financial goals. Do you rent an apartment or plan to buy a house soon? What is your credit score? Reviewing these questions, you understand your significant other’s financial history better. Now You have a better idea of how money relates to marriage. Mittie, a former boss said, “You want to make sure that your relationship goes in the right direction.”
Jesus talked about finances in the bible more than any other topic. When Christians handle finances well, Jesus can trust them in ministry. Lord, help me to manage my finances better so I can bless my future mate and church one day. If I waste money, I repent. Help me to be a Proverbs 31 wife who husband trusts her.
Of course, every couple disagrees occasionally about finances. Work out your small issues, and you trust God for the right answers. I know life is complex, and you face the unexpected problems like unemployment and health problems. Most of all I want to leave a Godly heritage to my future children.
I made a promise to myself that I needed a strong marriage. God is first in our lives, not a career. Every day I search my heart diligently and improve other areas. Waiting patiently, I confess the promises of God. If God shows you an area that needs work, please let me know. I would love to hear from you.